Self-Trust: Developing The Confidence To Live Your Purpose

Trust yourself

Self-trust is the first secret of success, the belief that if you are here the authorities of the universe put you here, and for cause, or with some task strictly appointed you in your constitution, and so long as you work at that you are well and successful.

 ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~


Do you trust your own judgement? Inspiring and encouraging others to believe in themselves comes naturally for most women and as we age, we tend to get even better at it. By the time we pass the 50-year mark we can look back over the years and see the evidence of our impact on spouses, children, family members, friends and sometimes even strangers we happened to have had a passing conversation with. Have you ever wondered why so many of us hesitate when it comes to applying the encouragement and advice we lovingly give others to our own lives?

I don’t know about you, but lack of self-trust has robbed me of too many dreams over the years and I’m tired of it; tired of the starts and stops. I want more… Letting even one more opportunity to accomplish something I’ve dreamed of doing is not longer an option worth considering at this point.

I hope you enjoy this post written by Mona as much as I do. Leave a comment and share your thoughts.


5 Simple Processes To Raise Your Self Trust

By Mona N

Align With Your Purpose In Every Moment.

Life is short. Each day that goes by has 1400 minutes. You are here to make the most of those minutes. Each human life lasts 25000 days on an average, considering a person lives up to 75- 80 years of age. What do we do with those 25000 days?

Many of our lives are without a genuine sense of purpose. Most often this is the case;regardless of education, status, culture, or creed. In all probability we ape what we see our authority figures doing around us. Ordinarily, we work, we play, we entertain, we procreate, we laugh, we talk, and even think without purpose.

That’s not to say we need to become automatons, and go around life machine- like;without spontaneity. Yet spontaneity and freedom is often mistaken for going rudderless through life. Each of us must have a direction, we must have a vision. Or else life is merely a roller coaster of imitation.

The Proverbs say “where there is no vision the people shall perish”. This is what you want to avoid. What you need is a vision, a purpose, and a direction; possibly one which flows into every moment of you waking life.

Speak Your Mind With Inner Confidence

You are you. You have exclusive dominance over your understanding of the world. You interpret the universe in your own way. Something that excites you may not even cross another’s mind, ever. You have a unique viewpoint of life. This uniqueness is the very essence of this beautiful world. And the cosmos needs you to fulfill that very facet of its unfolding.

So when you hold yourself back, you hold your uniqueness back. You deprive the universe from expressing itself. You don’t have to do that. Express yourself. Say what you feel. Enlighten the world with what you originally think about something.

Of course we want to stay within civil limits of social behavior when we express ourselves. saying what you think does not imply imperiousness, or curt & rude behavior just because you have licence to say something different.

But speak we must. Talk we must. Express we must.

Why Seek Permission Constantly?

As you travel the meandering roads of life, you will have encounters with your dreams often. Some dreams will remain where they were born;in the mind only. And some will see the light of day.

Those dreams that do not become reality remain dormant because you “hid your lamp under a bushel”. Yet the interesting fact is that all dreams can manifest into reality, provided you are bold enough to reach out to them. You don’t stop and look over your shoulders for approval, for permission, for social nod. When the right opportunity arrives you simply act out of confidence in your self. You work hard and you win.

Always seeking permission from authority, perceived or real, is bound to stop you in your tracks. So let go of those niggling fears and take responsibility squarely for your actions.

Trust Deeply What You Love.

You personally deserve the best that this universe has to offer. But for that you have to look into yourself and decide what it is you truly desire. Every one of us has their own unique pulls and pushes. Tune into yourself.

Ask yourself what you want. It may differ totally from what you have so far thought you want. Probably, and probably not. Yet the start point of your fulfillment is what you want deeply. For that your faith in the inner voice you hear is critical to your fulfillment.

Blessed Is The Impassioned Life

Zest for what you do is tonic for the soul. Passion for any work turns drudgery into art. Any activity that can enthuse you is a blessing in your life. You may have deep interest in wildlife, or cooking, or apps, or rugby, or cloud computing, or astronomy, or river rafting, or, or, or. The list is endless. Yet the point we are making is that enthusiasm for some core activity in your life deeply empowers you. Stick to it. Have faith in your abiding interests. Live life fully.

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Mona is a humble blogger who believes in inspiring others to be positive and do good while living a perfectly normal life in this world.You can find her hermitage on the net at

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Soulful Sunday: Patti Labelle – Right Kind Of Lover


patti labelle: right kind of lover

Welcome to Soulful Sunday @ BWO50. Every week we will be featuring the lyrics and video (if available) of an amazing artist singing a soulful song.  Your suggestions are always welcome.

The Right Kind of Lover by Ms Patti Labelle

I got a man (yeah)
Sho’nuff a real man (uh um)
A good old man that’s what I got (yeah)
A good old man said it helps a lot
A real man strong but, tender
Baby, that’s the kinda man I need
His love I will surrender
Cause he’ll keep his mind on pleasing me (

Cause he’s the
Right kinda lover
I’ll never need another
Sho’ nuff he’s got the stuff
He’s the right kinda lover for me (oh yeah)

An interesting conversation
Every once in a while
Always prompt and attentive
Cause my darling knows that is my style

Cause he’s the
Right kinda lover
I’ll never need another
Sho’ nuff he’s got the stuff
He’s the right kinda lover for me 2x
(Yes he is)
(The right, the right for me)

Do you know I say
Every night when I get down on my knees to pray
I thank the Lord for sending Mr. Right my way
This kinda of love
Had to come from heaven down
I ain’t never gonna let him go
Because I need this kinda man around

Cause he’s the
Right kinda lover
I’ll never need another
Sho’ nuff he’s got the stuff
He’s the right kinda lover for me 2x

Yes he is
Strong but tender (yeah)
Said that he’s the right height
And the right build
Goes to work everyday
And the man pays all my bills
Come home in the evening
Moving slow
But girls I’m here to tell you the man can go go go
He just rubs me
Oo, the right way
That’s how he keeps this permanent smile on my face
He’s the right man
Sho’ nuff he’s got the stuff
He’s the right kinda of lover for me

Chorus 2x


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Image courtesy of Patti Labelle

Smoothie of the Day: Pineapple Banana Dream

Pineapple Smoothie

This is one of the first recipes I made when I stopped resisting the urge to try my hand at making (as opposed to purchasing) my own smoothies.

Why did I resist for so long? I’m almost ashamed to admit this, but… I thought I needed a juicer to make a proper smoothie. Since I do not own a juicer, I incorrectly assumed making them was not in the realm of things I could accomplish, so I dismissed the thought and ignored the “smoothie trend.” I did not know all those wonderful smoothies could be made in a blender!

Isn’t it funny the way your mind can work against you? Preconceived notions about things can be sooo limiting.

Moving on.

This smoothie contains:

1 ripe banana

1 cup pineapple chunks

6 oz almond milk

about 5-6 ice cubes

Add all ingredients to your blender, set it on chop until most of the ice is crushed then puree for a few seconds. Pour in a pretty glass and enjoy!

If you enjoy making your own facial products, pamper your skin with this Banana Skin Softener.

What about you? Are you still resisting the Smoothie Trend?

Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream

I received a press sample of Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream from the iFabbo shop.

Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream

Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream – Front


Product Description:

This luxurious hand cream is formulated with 100% Organic Shea Butter and extracts of White Lily which are soothing and emolient to the skin. Aids in maintaining the skin’s appearance by helping optimize    elasticity and firmness. Additional benefits: Helps improve the look of the skin – Effective beauty treatment for dry, prematurely aged skin – Helps fight free radicals and protect against environmental aggressors – Recommended for areas most prone to dryness – No preservatives

Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream

Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream – Back

I have tested and written reviews for several Perlier products. Overall, I think they produce an excellent line of Bath and Personal care products, which I look forward to receiving as they become available. But I was disappointed in this Shea Butter Hand Cream. Let me explain why.

The cream is very rich having a nice, thick consistency. It’s not oily and it absorbs quickly, leaving your hands feeling smooth and soft. But the scent is overpowering. I think they overdid it with the white lily extract. The scent is so strong, I can actually taste it, and for me that was a turn off.

On the other hand, my Mother thinks it smells great and she loves it. We agree on the end result. It is an effective hand cream.

If you happen to like strong floral scents, you’ll probably love it. If you’re sensitive to scents, as I am, give this one a pass.

If you’d like to try Perlier Shea Butter White Lily Hand Cream for yourself, it’s available exclusively on HSN. The network will be featuring this handcream in a variety of package deals on July 24th and 25th. If you like to know more about Perlier and their products you can check find them on





Life is Short. Live Beautifully!


Pan Fried Silver Trout: Soul Food Recipes

Pan Fried Silver Trout: Soul Food Recipes


Friday has been fish day in our house since I was a child. We buy it fresh on Friday morning and store it in the fridge until it’s time to cook it. When properly prepared, fresh fried fish has a thin, golden crust and is flaky, moist and delicious. There is nothing like it. Frozen fish can’t even begin to compare because once a fish has been descaled and cleaned, it’s supposed to be eaten. If you’re not cooking it right away, it should be frozen whole to retain the flavor. That’s not a rule, it’s just my opinion.

If I sound like a “fresh fish only” snob, that’s because I am. Frozen fish just doesn’t do it for me, however this method works the same way for frozen fillets if that is your preference. Just make sure they are completely thawed. It’s best to let them drain in a colander for several hours to get rid of most of the excess water.

Pan Fried Silver Trout 


3 lbs of fish – you can split them lengthwise or leave whole.

Salt to taste

2 tsp black pepper

2 tsp garlic (optional)

Fine yellow cornmeal

½ cup of canola oil

2 Tbs All purpose flour

Pan Fried Silver Trout: Soul Food Recipes



Start by rinsing your fish. Pat dry with a paper towel. Add the seasonings to the fish making sure each piece is covered evenly, front and back.

*I usually season mine about an hour or two before I plan to cook it. This step is optional but I think the extra time adds a bit more flavor to any meat.

Once the fish is cleaned and seasoned, pour a good amount of cornmeal into your container of choice – a large baggie/a bowl/a plate – whatever works for you. I use one of those black plastic bags most of the corner stores give out. :) Add the flour and mix well. I prefer a bag because like to shake the fish around in the mixture in order to get a good thorough coating.

pan fried silver trout, soul food recipes

Pour the oil into a heavy pan over medium heat. (I use a cast iron skillet) You may have to add more oil. The 1/2 cup listed in the ingredients is an estimate. The important thing is you want about a 1/4 inch of oil in the pan and if you’re cooking a lot of fish, you will have to add more oil as you go.

Shake the excess meal off of your fish before placing it in the pan. Fry both sides to a light golden brown, approximately 5-7 minutes per side. Lay the fish on paper towels to absorb the extra oil and serve immediately.

Bon Appetit!

Life is Short. Eat Well!